July 26, 2016

The 6 F's - HIA Framework Part 3

This is part 3 in my series where I'm breaking down the meaning of A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life, and where I'm sharing my framework for having it all.   In the A.L.L. framework, I've chosen to focus on what I think are 6 key areas of life:...


This is part 3 in my series where I'm breaking down the meaning of A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life, and where I'm sharing my framework for having it all. In the A.L.L. framework, I've chosen to focus on what I think are 6 key areas of life: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, and Fun. Faith: belief in something bigger than you; believing in something you don't understand. 

  • Not talking about religion specifically. You can have FAITH and not consider yourself religious. That's how I feel about myself. 

Family: the people in your innermost circle. 

  • Think of the symbol for Target (dot, circle, circle). The dot is family. Circle 1 is inner friends. Circle 2 is outer friends/acquaintances.
  • Not always blood. 
  • Listen to my convo with Robert Monroe, and he'll shift how you think about family (Robert was orphaned at age 12, but knows he has a large, loving family, including multiple mothers and fathers)
  • Includes romantic partners as well (spouse, significant other)

Friends: the people who are in your inner circle. Your personal tribe.

  • There to support you; see the greatness in you.
  • Tell it like it is; tell the uncomfortable truth.
  • Have your back; will defend and stand up for you.
  • However else you define friends.

Fitness: your health.

  • Is your body in a state of DETOX or INTOX?
  • Are you treating your body with kindness?
  • Being mindful of what you put in your body: food, drink, information, environments, people/conversations
  • Your ability to heal (HEAL is the root of HEALTH)
  • LIFEstyle versus DIEt

Finance: your ability to generate what you need to live the life you want

  • Not talking about being wealthy, although that is the goal of many
  • Are you living within your means?
  • What is your relationship like to your finances?
  • For many years, and still to this day, my relationship to my personal finances has been up and down. At times I feel great about my finances, confident, in control, knowledgable, following a plan -- abundant. Other times I feel lost, without a plan, lacking knowledge -- scarce. 
  • Your quality of life improves as your finances improve, to a point. At around $75,000 per year it rounds off, and then more money doesn't mean more peace, happiness or emotional health. It can actually go down. 
  • It's not about how much you make or spend, it's about your relationship to it all.

Fun: your ability to let your inner kid out, laugh, let go, and enjoy life.

  • This is where I personally thrive!
  • Fun means different things to different people. YOU define what fun is for you.
  • Many of us are not regularly making time for fun. It happens only on the weekends, or maybe even only on vacations. Otherwise we're hustling and working and just surviving.
  • Plenty of studies out there to support the importance of FUN, so I won't get into that. 
  • You can survive without fun, but I argue that you cannot THRIVE without it!

Measurements (Accountability) on the 6 F's Faith - 10 couple meditations/prayers Family - 15-20 family dinners, 10 family playtimes Friends - 4 couple outings Fitness - Regular weekly exercise, join a running group or fitness class. commit to doing a few small fitness things each day. Finance - Enrolilng in Financial Peace and going through the 7 Baby Steps Fun - 1 vacation out of country, 1 vacation in states